Don't Blame Your Spouse

Being an astrologer, most frequently, I come across shouting and quarreling couples. They are not happy in their married life. In almost every case, the person who is seeking astrological guidance; is the one who finds faults with the life-style, habits, attitude etc. of his/her spouse. Though the joint family system is on diminishing count, many times the in-laws are also instrumental in creating disharmony. In Indian scenario, when such persons approach astrologer, they have big bothering Question mark: "Why to Me?", "Why is she/he so blunt?", "Why this is with us? - Our horoscope were got matched". There issues with youngsters e.g. they have been in relaitonship and now the other person is turning face.. whether they will ever be able to get married, whether they will have happy married life if they get married etc. To analyze such situations, we need to understand the causes that bind persons into relationship or a wedlock.

Who becomes Our Spouse?
It is very important that we, at the very outset, understand the reason, why out of million others, none other but a particular person becomes our spouse? The cause is Karmic. During our life, as we deal with others, we create Karma. This means that either we owe something to others or we have some outstanding dues to be collected from others. This give & take is called Karmic Rinanubandha. This can be the joy as an output of positive karma or it can be sorrows and pain as an output of bad karma. This cycle of generating karma goes on continually throughout a life period. Many of such karma have very long gestation period. Such karma get accumulated and they are called 'Sanchita Karma'. Thus, at any given point of time, we have collection of such Sanchita karma involving people with whom we have interacted profusely. It can be in terms of volume or it can be in terms of gravity of the transactions. The pull of the unsettled karma generates a bond between the persons concerned. These are the people who get attracted towards each other and establish relationship even in another life period. They become parent-child, husband-wife, brother-sister, in-laws, neighbours, co-workers, business partners depending upon the volume of karma to be settled. Thus, all our relationships are karmic bonds and the only way to overcome this, is to deal with them in a gentle manner. Now you know, why we marry with a particular person? It is only because of the pressure of unsettled karma. This way, every relationship is an opportunity to workout the Karmic dues.
A Spouse is an Evolution AgentAs our ego travels from lives to lives, through reincarnations, it gets closer to perfection. The journey is aimed at establishing harmony of body-mind-spirit and with the environment. This is the process of psychic evolution through various experiences. Life, in this way, is a workshop for evolution of the spirit. During the process, we need to learn from others so that we can appreciate value and impact of human feelings. Amongst all relations, we interact the most with our spouses. So, think it over, your spouse is the person who imparts major lessons to you. Oie La, She or He is a teacher..! Learning through others is not easy. At times the person has to act bitterly while tough lessons are to be imparted. So, even by attracting your displeasure and ill feelings, your spouse teaches you lessons. Through these lessons we develop our psyche towards perfection. One should be obliged to ones spouse.! Do you agree?
It's all in Your Own Horoscope
Your horoscope is a balance-sheet of your Sanchit Karma. Joys and Sorrows, both are reflected in your individual horoscope. Thus, whatever you have got is attributable to your own past Karma. No one should have any reason to pass on the buck to the other person. The harmony and joy or the quarrels and disgusts; are output of your own past karma. You have the possibilities charted in your horoscope as to the quality of your married life. As regards potential of marital bliss, you have your own balance to your credit. This potential would remain same whether you marry to 'X' or 'Y'. This is the reason, I personally don't see much of logic in Horoscope matching. However, if you understand the characteristics of your spouse as expounded in his/her Ashta-koota as a part of kundli matching, and adjust accordingly, you will have smooth life. Let our approach to relationship be positive. The bonds are result of past but our reactions should come from our Free-will. On karmic plane let us keep vigil. Let the dues of the past get consumed without anger and harsh reactions. This is the way, one can save oneself from generating further bad karmas. Always emember, you have come together to settle the dues and learn lessons together.

For the people who are in relationship for a considerable period and now the other person is showing indifference and lingering the decision to get marry; or people who were proposed and now astrologers have declared as incompitable combination, it should not be difficult to understand that if you two are sharing only limited amount of karmic dues, you have to get ready to give it up. If you have yet to settle the dues, no matter what, you will get marry. Unless you settle the dues, the relationship cannot end.

Essentials of Hindu Mantra Sadhana

Since ancient time till the present era; Mantras have been used as a remedy for nearly every problem. With the increasing number of TV channels in India, the situation is such that you tell about any issue and one out of ten persons, you will find at least one to come out with a handy Mantra to resolve your issue. The great learned pundits are there on the small screen almost round the clock. Now a question arises, do we really get benefit from those free of cost advice ? I don't think the TV channels will be helpful to you in this respect. They should be more than happy with the increasing TRP and would haradly get time to undertake a survey to find effacasy of such remedial mantras etc.

With a view to verify the effectiveness of mantras, let us try to answer these questions

• Can one mantra be effective for multiple purposes ?
• What is the source of power of any mantra ?
• What is the correct way of using a mantra ?
• What matters the most - The sound, the tone and rhythm of reciting a mantra, the meaning of the words used in the mantra, or the procedure prescribed?
• By usage of a Mantra can any one be able to escape from experiencing the fructification of Karma?
• How does 'offering' of a mantra by a Siddha makes a difference?

One Mantra removes all evil ?
One should not need any thing more than mere common sense to reject the notion of 'elixir' kind of a Mantra that can be used to resolve a problem irrespective of nature of problem.

As we accept the low of 'Cause and Effect'; we have to find the likely cause of a problem and then the remedy has to address the cause. In a way, the remedy should be a kind of reversal process of the cause.We can understand that every problem has to have a particularly related cause and hence, it has to be addressed with a specific process. Thus, a Mantra to increase physical height of a person cannot be accepted as a cure of Cancer.

Hindu mantras like 'Maha Mrintyunjaya Mantra', 'Gayatri Mantra', etc. suffer from the notion of 'One-for-All' remedy and we most humbly do not agree with the belief.

The sanctity of mantras for spiritual upliftment should be maintained and must not be recommended for temporal laukik reasons as trival as 'securing a job transfer ' or 'begetting children' etc. People indulging in such activities are unknowingly doing a grave disservice to the sacred heritage of Vedas.

Prerequisites for Using a Mantra :
The seers who formulated the mantras offered them to their disciples who were well-versed with the prerequisites as a part of the methodology of particular school of spiritual Sadhana. The knowledge of such prerequisites was believed to be so fundamental that its narration, at times, used to be ommitted to avoid repetition.

Most of the mantras have been a part of a Stotra or an Upanishad or a fullfleged Sadhana or an Anushthana and were never intended to be used in isolation. However, over a period of time, some of the Pundits started compiling the mantras and formulated books of such collection. At this stage, the brevity was the call and not only the prerequisites, but even the overall purpose and relevance lost their place.

In the modern age, where education and spirituality has turned into an Industry, Astrology, too, has slipped into the hands of commercial people. In absence of honest custodians and the rightful inheritors; mantras are prescribed in most bizzare manner by the commecial astrologers for meeting their selfish means. Needless to say, mantras have become tools in their hands to exploit the greedy and ignorant people.

The Rishis who formulated the mantras also advocated certain procedures to be followed for its right use. This include a formal commitment in the form of 'Sankalpa', some movements and gestures in form of 'Nyasa', creating protective sheath in form of 'Kavacha' and offerings to the Devata in the form of 'Arghya'.

Let us understand the procedure as well as the parts of mantra.

Sankalpa :
Sankalpa with respect to Mantra Sadhana, means a formal committment about one's plan of the Sadhana. A statement of sankalpa generally contains one's own identification. This is in the vedic manner including one's full name, one's vedic lineage i.e. Veda, Gotra, Shakha etc. Then follows ones desire to chant the Mantra for a particular duration and in particular number or undertake an Anushthana for fulfilment of a particular wish. The sankalpa is addressed to the Devata of the Mantra. Ritualistically, a sankalpa is taken through Sanskrit. However, as we know the significance of Mental vibrations in Mantra Sadhana, it should be OK to undertake the Sankalpa in one's own language.

Nyasa :
Nyasa is an important preperatory stage of Mantra Sadhana. It is in a way a 'warming up' and 'cleansing' session prior to undertaking Mantra chanting. The sadhaka while exercising Pranayama, touches different parts his body either physically or visualize mentally depending upon the type of nyasa he has adopted. There are different types of Nayasa, e.g.Kara Nyasa, Anga Nyasa, Hridayadi Nyasa, Rishyadi Nyasa, Panchatatwa Nyasa, etc. Here, again the primary objective is to augment the process of attaining embodiment with the Mantra and its Devata at psyche level.

Kavacha :
Kavacha' is the imagery sheild to be created for the protection of the Sadhaka during Sadhana. It is very important because, the Sadhaka loses his conscious sense of awareness as he transgress into meditative state or altered state of awareness. During such a state he stands vulnerable and exposed to abnormal frequencies and vibrations. The performing of Kavacha protects the Sadhaka from such vibrations. The Kavacha in a way create hypontic layer of self-confidence and keep him comfortable

Arghya :
Arghya is a symbolic gesture of hospitality offered to the Devata. As we offer some tea and snacks and respect to the guest at our home, simillarly, here during Mantra sadhana, we are invoking the Devata of the Mantra and suitable welcome is essential. The arghya is normally a mixture of water, milk, curd, flower pattles, kumkum, sandal and grains like teel. The mixture is taken in hands in the cavety created by holding two palms together and then poured in the vessle meant for it. The ingredients of Arghya are Devata specific and so is the way of offering it and as such different Mantra Sadhana requires different kind of Arghya. On mental and subtle level, the offering of Arghya signifies surrend of the individual ego at the feet of the Devata.

In addition to the procedure, it is vital to understand the essential parts of a Mantra. Every mantra is suppose to be complete only when it is used with the following six parts, knows as 'Shadanga':

• Rishi
• Chhandas
• Devata
• Beeja
• Keelaka and
• Shakti.

Rishi :
Rishi is the person who originally formulated the Mantra. In vedic culture, Rishi is believed as the seer, a visualizer of Mantra. The prerequisite of naming the Rishi of the mantra before using the same is a humble way of showing gratitude and acknowledgement. This act of acknowledgement is the first step towards delution of personal pride and ego. The feeling of gratitude initiates the altered state of mind leading to internal environment congenial to invocation of the Devata of the Mantra.
Devata :
Devata of the Mantra is the form of the god who is being propitiated. The deveta element engages the visualizing faculty of human mind. Every Devata has its own Shape, Colour, Posture, Gesture, Mudra, Ayudha, and personality. The preceding steps of Rishi and Chhanda prepares the ground for effective visualization of the Devata. The initial utterrance of name of the Devata creates flashes of the visions. Its frequent repetition enables a devotee to contemplate upon the form of the Devata. Ultimately, he forgets his own self and gets unified with the form of the Devata.

Chhandas :
Chhandas denotes to the gramatical formation of words in a particular rhythm. The chhanda sets the pattern of words and number of syllables. The formation guides the recitation of the Mantra in a particular way. The pattern activates different points in human brain and further augment the internal psychic environment. Each chhanda has its own attributes to influence the mood of the person reciting it.

Chhandas are classified into two types (1) Varnik Chhand (alphabetical stanzas) and (2)Matrik Chhand (stanzas containing short vowels). Hindu mantras follow the Chhandas of their respective Vedic Samhita and Shakha. Generally a distinct Matrik Chhanda has been preferred by different Shakha in different Samhitas.

Beeja :
Beeja is a single letter of Sanskrit Alphabet and it represent, again, shortes possible form of the Devata. The shape of the Beeja creates the route for the energy to vibrate. Beejam resembles the basic character (tatva) of the mantra. for example jala tatva(soft), agni tatva (hard) etc.

Keelaka :
Keelaka means a nail. Now, what is significance of a Nail here with respect to reciting a Mantra ? To understand the significance of Keelaka we have to link it with the nail that stops a rotating wheel slipping out of its excel. We know that the energy of a mantra is generated from the mind of the person and its important to keep it centered at a point to save it getting dissipated. This is done through Keelaka. Some people symbolize it with a key of the lock. Thus, a keelaka is believed to be a Key to open the lock of the source of a Mantra power.

Shakti :
Shakti means Power. Shakti means power or energy of the Mantra. This is the power generated through reciting the mantra.

It has to be noted that every Mantra has its own form of Shakti. However, let us admit that today, except the name denoted to the Shakti, we do not know much about distinct forms of the energy of Mantra. The main reason for this ommission is attributable to the fact that graphical reproduction of the form of energy vibrations visualized during altered state of mind remains difficult. The second reason for the misconception is that we consider the words 'Devi' and 'Shakti' as synomniums.

Due to this ambiguity, it is quite possible that a Sadhaka of a Mantra may contemplate upon a known form of Devi in stead of the energy vibrations of the Mantra.

Now, it should be clear as to why we don't get the much acclaimed results from reciting a mantra. If we ignore the essential 6 parts, how can we expect the desired effects?

The limitation lies on two parts. First is the ignorance of the doer. The person who undertakes Mantra, does not know the essential pre-requisites. Secondly, the limitation lies with the source from where a person receives the mantra. It is quite common now that people take mantra from any source, be it a cheap pocket book being sold at the roadside, any Sadhu or a TV Jyotishi. It is quite possible that the pre-requisites are compromised in offering and receiving the Mantra in this manner.Research on Mantra SadhanaMy objective here is to sensitize the need for conducting a research upon effectiveness of various Mantras. This way, we can assess the effectiveness of different mantras. The research should include the following :

• What was the objective of undertaking a Mantra ?
• Whether Mantra was received from a Siddha or a Guru
  • If yes - who was the person ?
    • what was the procedure used by the guru to seasion (siddhi) the Mantra?
    • What were the conditions followed by the Guru to assess the suitability of the beneficiery?
  • How many times the Mantra was recited/chanted every day?
  • What was the duration/period the Mantra was recited?
  • Whether the Shadangas i.e. Rishi, Deveta etc. were performed ritualistically ?
  • Whether Viniyas i.e. Sankalpa, Nyaasa, Puruscharana were performed ?
    • If yes, what was the procedure ?
    • What benefits were observed that can be confidently attributable to Mantra sadhana?
  • What way the pronunciation and modulation recitation of Mantraor or any instrumental sound used substantiated ? Could it be verified by a living experienced expert ?
  • Whether the Verbatim meaning of the Mantra signified the expected benefits?
  • Whether colours were used deliberately i.e., colour of the cloths or the Asana used by the sadhaka
  • If Mantra was used as a remedy of any disease; was it verified through medical reports ?

I wish to have valuable contributions from learned members and visitors of this esteem site so that the science of mantra can be augumented in right direction. I invite suggestions with regard to classification of various kinds of Mantras and its genuine purpose. I wish that we can compile the Shadangas of every Mantra with its dos'n'donts. Let us bring in transparency into this subject. This is the way, we can get back the lost glory to our devine heritage. Let us admit and sensitize as to what can be done and what cannot be done through Mantra.This is the way, we can curb the Cheaters and Thugs who are expoliting the ignorance of poor and needy people.

Suggestions are welcome..!!